RULES 101

There are certain times in our life where we just wanna go with the flow and let everything put itself in the right place thinking that things happen for a reason. But sometimes, people make a list of rules in order for them to take control of the situation and turn it into what they have in mind to happen.

Either of the two, I wanna share some rules na I came across on Wattpad (Yes you are not mistaken :) Wattpad). It is a great story entitled "Lana's List" by fallenbabybubu. For all those girls na mahilig talagang mang spot ng gwapo, this is perfect for you. (Hahahaha!) Enjoy reading :)

Lana's List

Rule #1: Define his status. There are two kinds of guys, one is unreachable (out of your league) and the other is reachable (kaya pang pantayan kahit papaano). Alamin mo kung nasaang category yung gusto mong guy. Kapag nasa unreachable siya, stop fussing over him. Kalimutan mo na. Hanggang pangarap nalang 'yan girl. Pero kapag nasa reachable siya, malaki pa ang pag-asa mo.

Rule #2: Keep your cool. 'Wag kang masyadong papahalata na naaapektuhan ka or nasasabik ka, kahit na sobra sobra na. Hindi porke't maraming nagpapakagaga sa kanya means okay na 'yun. No! Don't be like that. Be different. Not necessarily tarayan. Just treat him like he's an ordinary person. Be friendly, but don't overdo it. Cool ka lang. Tao lang siya.

Rule #3: Never assume. Sabihin na niyang manhid ka pero mas nakakahiya pa rin kung mag-aassume ka tapos mali pala. That's the problem with guys. Gusto nilang ma-gets mo agad without saying anything on their part. Unfair 'di ba? So make him SAY it. Kapag na-frustrate ka na, tanungin mo nalang siya nang pabiro. Kapag 'di siya umamin, edi hindi.

Rule #4: Create a nickname for him. 'Yung nickname na pipiliin mo, hindi dapat compliment. Dapat kakaiba ka rin. That way, dagdag familiarity and closeness. 'Pag nag-text ka or tumawag or nag-chat, tapos tinawag mo siya by that nickname, ikaw kaagad ang papasok s aisip niya. Kahit marinig niya lang 'yun sa ibang tao or mabasa kung saan, maaalala niya ikaw.

Rule #5: Never ask for his number. Magkatigasan na kayo pero huwag na huwag mong kukunin ang number niya. Hayaan mo na siya ang humingi. Kapag binigay niya naman sa iyo, huwag ikaw ang unang mag-text (But that's a different rule). Kung hindi mo matiis, sige at kunin mo. Pero huwag mo siyang itetext. Kaya mas mabuti na ring huwag mong kunin para walang temptation.

Rule #6: Never reply too quickly nor too long. Kapag nag-text ka kaagad, halatang sbaik ka masyado. Kapag nag-text ka ng masyadong matagal, nakakatamad kang maging ka-text. Dpat tama lang. 4-8 minutes para hindi halata. Edi mukhang may pagka-busy or hindi lang siya ang ka-text mo. *exception: Kapag nag-reply siya after 30 minutes, mag-reply ka din after 30 minutes. Kapag 1 hour, after 1 hour din. Tiisin mo.

Rule #7: Lessen the smiley face and 'haha'. Whenever you're chatting with him, bawasan ang smiley face at pagtawa. Magmumukha kang fangirl. Pwera nalang syempre kung nakakatawa talaga ang pinag-uusapan niyo. You can also use 'XD' pero huwag masyado.

Rule #8: Appear indifferent. Don't let him find out na you know almost everything about him. Kapag may sinabi siya once at tumatak sa isip mo, huwag mong ipapaalam na naaalala mo pa. First of all, creepy 'yun for guys. Kahit na sweet for us girls when it's the other way around. Sa mga lalaki hindi. Obvious na agad na may something ka para sa kanya. Second of all, he will be baffled by your indifference making him more interested.

Rule #9: Never spill on someone he knows. Kahit pa anong pilit sayo, kahit pa sobrang close mo, kahit pa trusted mo talaga, huwag na huwag mong ipaalam na gusto mo siya sa kakilala niya (unless gusto mong iparating dun sa taong gusto mo). You can never be too sure. And always remember, DO NOT underestimate the Bro Code (Google it kung hindi mo alam).

Rule #10: Be impressive. If you don't know what he's talking about. pretend you do then Google it nalang after. Ano ba ang number one favorite topic ng mga lalaki? Sports. Know it and own it. Impressive sa mga lalaki kapag may alam ka lalo na kapag may alam ka sa sports. Hindi lang impressive, attractive din. Besides knowing your own stuff, ipakita mo na hindi lang 'yun ang alam mo.

Rule #11: Like sports. Big points sa mga lalaki kapag mahilig ka sa sports. Kahitt hindi ka athletic, bastaa you like watching it. That's a turn on sa most guys.

Rule #12: Don't overthink. Madalas, napakasimple lang naman ng intention nung guy pero nilalagyan na natin ng mabigat na meaning. Madala kasi literal ang mga lalaki. Natataon, walang meaning behind their words or their actions. Sinasabi or ginagawa lang nila 'yun just because. Syempre may mga exceptions (lalo na 'pag girly yung attitude nung lalaki or yung mga lalakking may agenda). You NEED to know the difference between a guy with an intent or a guy who's naturally nice.

Rule #13: Have a healthy appetite. Hindi ito nag-aapply sa lahat ng lalaki, pero impressed sila sa mga babaeng malakas kumain and and at the same time can carry themselves. They appreciate a girl who can appreciate good food. Of course kailangan pa rin mag-diet ng mga hindi mabibilis ang metabolism. Diskartehan mo nalang girl.

Rule #14: Know the difference between friendship and romance. Sabi nga sa One Tree Hil, "Sometimes, romance confuses friendship." That quote couldn't be more true. Akala mo gusto mo na, nag-effort ka pa and everything, tapos hindi pala. Dapat alam mo difference kasi nakakasira ng friendship 'yun. So here's what to do: Pumikit ka, tapos imagine yourself with the guy doing sweet things (holding hands, kissing, etc.). Kapag kinilig ka, may feelings ka for him. Kapag kinilabutan ka or nandiri ka, friend lang ang tingin mo sa kanya.

Rule #15: Never message first. Either chat, PM, email, or text, huwag ikaw ang mauuna. The simplest explanation dito ay: Guys like the chase. Hindi ka niya exactly hinahabol kung hindi ka magpapahabol. Kung ikaw ang unang mag-aapproach, lumalabas nang easy sa kanya. And there's another issue na 'What if hindi siya mag-reply?' Tapos seenzoned ka pa. Pahiya ka na agad dun girl. Hayaan mo siya ang unang mag-message. That way, you have the upper hand. *exception: You can only message him first IF random. Example nun ay kung may makita/mapanood/marinig ka that reminds you of him.

Rule #16: Let him make an effort. Heto ang isa sa mga bagay na makakapagpatunay kung interesado or seryoso ba talaga ang guy sa 'yo. Mag-eeffort ba naman siya kung hindi? (Unless may motive siyang hindi maganda.) Kung hindi siya nag-eeffort, bakit ka pa aasa na magkaron kayo ng something? Hindi pwedeng ikaw lang ang magpipilit. It comes both ways.

Rule #17: Make him miss you. Sooner or later, baka magkasawaan kayo kapag everyday kayong mag-usap. Wala nang room for space. So give him one. In the meantime, do the things that you enjoy. If you have school or work, do that. Don't revolve your world around him. May buhay ka din. Live it.

Rule #18: Don't be clingy. Most guys don't like clingy girls- especially those na wala namang karapatan. Cool ka lang. Kung mag-share siya, edi okay. If not, okay lang din. Same goes for you. Hindi mo kailangang magsabi ng bawat galaw mo. Keep him interested.

Rule #19: Don't be a nagger. Unang-una, may karapatan ka ba? Pero kahit na meron, 'wag kang maging palengkera. Hindi mo ikagaganda ang pointless na pagtatalak. Hindi rin maganda sa paningin ng guy na gusto mo or kahit sino. May pinag-aralan ka man o wala, learn your manners. It's his own life. You're not his mother. Let him be.

Rule #20: Accept defeat. Kung hindi gumana yung list, tanggapin mo nalang. There's no point in deluding yourself that you can still make your crush fall for you. Kahit gaano ka pa ka-determined, if it doesn't work, it doesn't work. Hindi mo mapipilit yung feelings niya. So just move on girl. It's over.

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So that's it :)

But you know it's always your way naman kung paano kayo magdedeal sa mga ganitong bagay. Always remember: You are the captain of your own ship.

I hope you enjoyed reading it and looking forward for you reading the Wattpad story. For sure relate ang mga girls :)